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💙 Why Do Some People Self-Harm?

There isn’t just one reason. Everyone’s experience is different.

Sometimes people are dealing with big, intense feelings, and hurting themselves can feel like the only way to cope. Other times, feeling numb or disconnected makes them want to feel something again.

For some, self-harm can feel like a way of:

• Letting out feelings that are hard to explain

• Calming overwhelming thoughts or emotions

• Feeling a sense of control when things feel chaotic

• Being hard on themselves when they feel stuck or ashamed

Often, it starts during a stressful or upsetting time in life.

You might not even know why you’re doing it—and that’s okay. With the right support, it’s possible to understand your triggers and find safer ways to cope.

🌍 Who Does This Affect?

Self-harm can affect anyone, from any background or age group.

Difficult or unfair experiences—like discrimination, bullying, or trauma—can increase the risk. Some communities face these pressures more often, which can make things even harder.

If you’re being treated badly, know this: you matter. You deserve respect, care, and support exactly as you are.

🚫 It’s Not “Attention-Seeking”

There’s a lot of misunderstanding about self-harm.

Many people keep it completely private. And even if someone does want others to notice, that doesn’t mean their pain isn’t real. Wanting to be seen, heard, and taken seriously is human.

You deserve compassion, not judgment. 💛

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

You’re not broken. You’re not weak. And you don’t have to deal with this alone. Help is out there, and things can get better with support.

If you’re in danger or feel unsafe right now, get help immediately by calling 999 or going to A&E for emergancy help .